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Managing Parents Fears about their Young Adult Children

High school graduation is still months away but what our children will do after walking off the stage is weighing heavy on the minds of many parents today. The feelings triggered by the thought of your son or daughter leaving the home and taking their first step as a young adult can be overwhelming. “What if they chose the wrong school?”; “What if they spend four years (and six figures) learning about something they will never want to do?”...the fears seem endless.

As a matter of fact, there are at least 20 areas where parents worry according to Noodle, (a company that helps students make decisions about education). They interviewed more than 700 parents (college and high school parents) and identified 20 factors that they believe are very important for their child’s college experience. The top of the list of worries is related to their young adult’s safety in a new setting. The rest of the fears focus on: Acquisition of real-world marketable skills, overall good fit, academic experience and affordability. The good news is that the primary worries of parents include factors that they can control.

“It's impossible to map out a route to your destination if you don't know where you're starting from.” screams Suze Orman from her financial talk show. She goes on to explain that it is impossible to make a plan if you don’t know what you have. At Facticiti, they know that parents and students can start to solve their biggest college fears if they have a solid understanding of where they are starting AND where they want to go. By using that service, young people are clear about what activities they like to do, ones they should avoid, the type of workplace culture that would help them thrive, their thinking style as it applies to career choices, and careers where their interests are maximized and dislikes are minimized. They can even see job postings and descriptions of companies that are hiring right now in order to get a realistic preview of what is to come. If Suze Orman is right, Facticiti appears to be a great place to start.

Let's break it down a little further. If young person know what activities they enjoy, they can choose courses that help build skill in those activities making them more marketable in the areas they want to work. What would be a more motivating educational experience for someone than to know the skills they learn now will allow them to do the things they love later? It is easier to control college costs when tuition is not wasted on courses that are uninteresting and do not apply to their future goals. Finally, when we see college as a tool to equip young adults for a lifetime of doing what they love, all the extraneous variables ranging from football team record to male:female ratios no longer matter. The only question that remains is “Where can I invest 2-4 years and my money (or my parents money) in a place that will provide me a lifetime of doing what I love?”

Percentage of Parents Who Rated Each Factor as Highly Important